Cancer (June 21 – July 22) is the fourth sign of the zodiac, symbolized by the Crab. It is a Cardinal Water sign ruled by the Moon. Loyalty, sensitivity, and imagination are the pillars of this sign. They are gentle but protective of their inner circle; Cancer people are the type to drop everything when someone they love is in need. At the same time, their devotion can be misinterpreted as overbearing, and Crabs are known to get emotionally insecure or defensive if they feel left out or unwanted. With good friends and security, Cancer folk can be some of the best friends anyone could ask for.
Moonstone is a birthstone and Ascendant stone for Cancer. It’s also a crystal for the Moon, the ruling planet of Cancer. This makes it a powerful stone for Cancer signs. With its feminine energy and lunar connection, Moonstone helps you to flow with life's ever-changing rhythms. This is useful for Cancers who can be reluctant to take risks, even when the odds are in their favour. Mood swings can also be a nuisance to Cancer signs. Moonstone is excellent for stabilising your emotions, so it’s a great choice if your mood often fluctuates. It also boosts self-love, which amplifies your nurturing ability and kindness towards others. As a stone associated with the Crown Chakra, this crystal will increase your already active intuition.
Red Jasper is a birthstone of Cancer that resonates with the Root Chakra. Home and security are important to a Cancerian. You love being around family and the steadiness this provides. Red Jasper’s warm, stabilising energy helps you to feel rooted and secure. Known as The Supreme Nurturer, it loves nothing more than to bring comfort and tranquillity. If your head is full of worries or negative thoughts, Red Jasper will reconnect you with the Earth. It’ll also absorb negative energy and relieve anxiety.
Carnelian brings out Cancer’s creative flair, sparking their inspiration and helping them to master their art. It offers a balancing and grounding energy that gives them a sense of vitality and courage so that they can manifest their dreams. This Cancer stone also helps Cancer sun signs make good choices.
Rose Quartz matches the caring side of Cancer. It puts out a gentle, nurturing energy that promotes compassion, self-acceptance, and love on all levels, including self-love and unconditional love of others. This Cancer crystal reduces feelings of self-pity, indecisiveness, and possessiveness, and it eliminates negative thoughts and fears.
Strengths & Weaknesses
Strengths – The greatest strength of every Cancer is their compassion, followed by their ability to look after people they care about. Born with extremely high capability for empathy, they can have trouble holding on to their boundaries. However, if they don’t fear of getting hurt and bravely accept emotional challenges, they become adaptable, trustworthy individuals, who truly enjoy their motherly approach to those in need.
Weaknesses – Often too attached to the past, while at the same time anxious about the future, they can lose stability in a matter of seconds. Their inner emotional rollercoaster is as fast as the travel of the Moon in relativity to other celestial bodies, and it is not easy to follow their deep, inner flow of feelings that never seem to stop moving and building up.
Cancer In Relationships
In general, Cancer representatives easily get attached to people, led by pure emotion, and tend to be loyal, gentle and trustworthy to those they care about. They are helpful and strong when needed, but it sometimes gets easy to forget their sensitive side that needs tenderness and gratitude in return. Reactive and with an emphasized inner sense of moral, they will take things too deep, and could have real trouble around fiery signs that often don’t hold back and say the first thing that comes to their minds.
As partners – Cancer representatives seem to find their life’s goal. It is often unclear to them why every horoscope they read speaks of their attachment to family values, but this gets a lot clearer once they have children of their own. The main lesson parenting will bring to these individuals is a reality check on who truly is helpless and needs them to be caring and nurturing. Unfortunately, this often shines a light on those who could do well on their own too, and with a child entering their life, many of their unbalanced friendships will come to an end. They will give all the love they have to their children, put their hopes and dreams in them, and water them to grow in whichever direction they want to. The biggest problem appears when a Cancer parent is unsatisfied with their own life, for they become demanding, dependent on their child, and turn to emotional blackmail just to get the love they need. When in the scope of respecting their children’s boundaries, they will be loving and kind, finding their purpose in shaping someone’s way of using resources of life and supporting their children in building a strong but tender personality.
As children – Cancer children will need a lot of attention and care, but at the same time need just as much freedom to build their own way of thinking. With Jupiter exalted in their sign, these kids have an incredible desire to learn, but under their own terms and only about things that spark their hearts and nurture their souls. They shouldn’t be pushed to work or learn about things they are not interested in, for they need a strong focus and a career build on a good foundation and in a direction their heart chooses.
Love And Intimacy
When a Cancer gets romantically involved, they aren’t afraid of showing their emotions. What troubles them is the fear of getting hurt, for these are individuals that often perceive this world as a rough place they cannot handle. They are afraid of all the wrong words they could hear some day, and even though this can be far from reality, it keeps them careful and on a distance until they start feeling safe. Dedicated and loyal, their goals transcend typical romantic relationships, and even though some of Cancer representatives can be prone to casual flings, this is not in any way typical for this sign. In search for someone to share their life with, these people will search and search until they find someone to stick to. Once they do, they can become clingy and too attached, so it is important for them to keep some of their distance with a strong sense of where the other person currently is. When emotions are shared and the attachment goes both ways, but with both individuals strongly holding on to their individuality, sexual side of the relationship becomes something like a given, connecting these partners even stronger and firming their deeply intimate bond.
There is something like an inner fear in every Cancer that they aren’t taking enough responsibility. Being a sign opposed to the sign of Capricorn – the sign of all responsibility, this is a strange notion that moves them to build a strong career path and provide for themselves and their family. Often described as family types, many would imagine housewives and husbands that come home to watch a game with their sons every evening. This is not exactly the correct image, and although many of them would love to spend all of their time with children and loved ones, they are down to earth enough to understand that they need to provide, feed, and create material safety for those who depend on them. This is why it is truly rare to see a Cancer not building his or hers career up and being as responsible and dedicated to their work as only the best in our branches can be.
Understanding Your Cancer
If you truly want to understand your Cancer, just stop to listen. Running through this relationship won’t get you any far, and it will be even more difficult earning their trust once it has been broken. Respect your Cancer and give them support and protection, for once they feel that nothing bad can come to them when they are around you, they will open up, and you’ll have a chance to see a whole new world of love, dedication and magical experiences that can never be found with someone else. With their mission located somewhere in the world of emotion, never tell them that they are too emotional. There is no such thing and their sensitivity is what keeps everyone around them happy.
Positive Cancer Traits
Loving for once they feel a beautiful emotion towards another human being, they cherish it. With the building of closeness and intimacy, a Cancer will make you feel special, care for you and never let you down, no matter your gender, sexual orientation, life goals, race or physical distance from them.
Compassionate with an incredibly deep understanding for other people, a Cancer will always carefully listen before acting on impulse, judging, or pushing other people’s limits.
Generous as a sign that exalts Jupiter and understands the art of unconditional giving. They will find an equation in their mind that will make them peaceful and calm while giving all they have to those they deeply love.
Negative Cancer Traits
Oversensitive and even though this is not exactly a negative trait, it can make them feel bad for years before they realize it is their actual quality and learn how to use it.
Clingy as a sign that is in search for a cleansed heart. While looking for love within, they tend to get too tied up in a love they find in the outer world. They have to hold on to their individuality and truly reserve their deepest emotions of love for themselves to begin with.
Moody since their emotions change with the tides and the movements of the Moon. The atmosphere they carry around cannot be predicted, unless if you know them in their deepest core and understand how to catch a wave and land where they’re at.